Like many of my lovely colleagues, I have mixed feelings on the subject of reviews. Personally, I have found them to overall be very effective at establishing my reputation — I can easily point to my bevy of happy client stories as evidence that I will not rip you off if I ask for a deposit, or expose you if I ask for ID or heavier screening. I find this to be the most valuable component of presence on review boards. I also happen to to be well reviewed — at the time of this writing [editor’s note: originally published 12 May 2014] , I am in the top 25 worldwide and number one in Boston [editor's note: top 5 in NYC as of December 2016]. So, you can be assured that the following complaints I have are not because I have been the target of negative reviews.

The downside is too important to neglect. For one, there have been many instances where reviews are used against an individual in legal settings. They can also be used to harm a provider’s reputation unfairly, or, on the flip side, help a provider’s reputation unfairly. The latter is often failed to be pointed out but it can set a false expectation on what a session may look like, and in the end, that’s an unhappy and stressful experience for all parties involved.

Personally, the number one reason I consider having my reviews removed (no easy task, another downside) is that if I am ever outed in my “real life”, a simple search engine query of my name brings up the direct link to my reviews within the first few hits. From there, anyone in my life who had come across my work name will find a plethora of salacious stories to judge.

So gentlemen, should a lady decide to have her reviews removed, or chose initially never to engage in them to begin with, don’t be so quick to assume that she has something to hide from her future suitors. She may well be “top rated” material, but with other priorities than taking the sometimes easier path of reviews. This is worth commendation, not condemnation. Who knows, someday, Yours Truly may be among those ranks.